My new revelation for this week is that great friendships are hard to find. My teenage neice has been staying with us for the summer. Not only do her and I look alike but we act alike too. We both are total dorks, we love to laugh, like to do the same things, and find the same things funny. As I have been thinking about this summer I was realizing that I have laughed more in the six weeks she has been here than I did the whole rest of the year! How sad is that. I love to laugh and be goofy and have fun but I had forgotten that about myself because I don't have any friends here who are the same. Which is just depressing.
I have been thinking about the friendships that I have and trying to look past the fact that they are all great women who love God and really evaluate and decide if they are life giving or life sucking. Just because they are Godly women does not mean they will make great healthy friendships. And I am starting to realize I need to find some more friends because I am boring and sad with the ones I have. When I am done hanging out with them I don't feel refreshed or blessed that I got to experience great friendship. I usually feel blah.
Settling for mediocrity is something that I cannot stand in other people or in myself. It drives me crazy when people settle for crap because they don't want to do what it take to change. Not that I am perfect, I totally struggle with this in certain areas of my life but for the most part I am always fighting for something better. How did I miss this in my friendships? When did it become ok to have mediocre friendships? Friendships that just exist like still water, never changing or moving. I know how hard it is to find great friends and it is rare to have a handful of lifelong friends so I am grateful for the ones I do have but realizing I need to find some more, because I need more joy and laughter and fun in my life.
Sunday, July 25, 2010
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Solidified
The definintion of solidified: To make solid, compact, or hard. Make stronger; reinforce.
I felt like I have received some "solid, strong" advice in regards to home schooling recently. I was talking to a mom who has home schooled her kids for a few years and still has managed to have a very trendy, social, and smart family. I had to know her secret. You know, since my idea of home school families is of those who only wear jumpers and suspenders. I know, it is a ridiculous judgment. I am working on it. : )
Anyway the advice was that I need to KNOW why I am home schooling. And once I know why then everyone else opinions no longer matter and I don't doubt all the time what I am doing because I know why. Her family is a lot like mine two girls and a boy and some of the same temperaments. She said she loves that they are so close as a family and that they do everything together. Which really, after all I might think and say, I really love that too. I hated sending my son to school everyday for 7 hours. I did not like that he was under everyone else influence more of the day than he was my own. Not that I want to control him or anything but I want to be the one choosing what he learns and helping direct him. My son also hated going to school, he wanted to stay home and be with the family. He did not like that his sisters got to stay home and have family time and he was shipped off with strangers. It has taken me awhile to accept this about him, and come to the conclusion that home school might be just the thing for our family. For our temperaments , for our personality, for our lifestyle. And that is ok. We are making the best choice for what is right for our family at this point in time.
The lady I was talking to also shared how instilling in her kids a deep love for God and others is the most important thing for them. Sure if they were really smart, and athletic, and socially acceptable, that would be great too, (which they are). But she would rather have home schooled kids who are a little "off" according to some but are totally in love with Jesus and following after him. That is the most important. And her kids are not "off" by any means.
I chewed on this information for a few weeks, while I was still processing our decision and trying to settle into the idea that this is what our life will look like for a least the next year. And for the first time since my son started kindergarten, I felt peace and excitement. This is the right thing for us. And I would have NEVER chose to do it without being put in a situation where I had to make the choice. But I am really looking forward to starting school and spending time together and continuing to teach my kids about God so they can love him and love others. I know it will be the hardest thing I have ever done, but I am content with our choice. It has been solidified for me.
Whew.
I felt like I have received some "solid, strong" advice in regards to home schooling recently. I was talking to a mom who has home schooled her kids for a few years and still has managed to have a very trendy, social, and smart family. I had to know her secret. You know, since my idea of home school families is of those who only wear jumpers and suspenders. I know, it is a ridiculous judgment. I am working on it. : )
Anyway the advice was that I need to KNOW why I am home schooling. And once I know why then everyone else opinions no longer matter and I don't doubt all the time what I am doing because I know why. Her family is a lot like mine two girls and a boy and some of the same temperaments. She said she loves that they are so close as a family and that they do everything together. Which really, after all I might think and say, I really love that too. I hated sending my son to school everyday for 7 hours. I did not like that he was under everyone else influence more of the day than he was my own. Not that I want to control him or anything but I want to be the one choosing what he learns and helping direct him. My son also hated going to school, he wanted to stay home and be with the family. He did not like that his sisters got to stay home and have family time and he was shipped off with strangers. It has taken me awhile to accept this about him, and come to the conclusion that home school might be just the thing for our family. For our temperaments , for our personality, for our lifestyle. And that is ok. We are making the best choice for what is right for our family at this point in time.
The lady I was talking to also shared how instilling in her kids a deep love for God and others is the most important thing for them. Sure if they were really smart, and athletic, and socially acceptable, that would be great too, (which they are). But she would rather have home schooled kids who are a little "off" according to some but are totally in love with Jesus and following after him. That is the most important. And her kids are not "off" by any means.
I chewed on this information for a few weeks, while I was still processing our decision and trying to settle into the idea that this is what our life will look like for a least the next year. And for the first time since my son started kindergarten, I felt peace and excitement. This is the right thing for us. And I would have NEVER chose to do it without being put in a situation where I had to make the choice. But I am really looking forward to starting school and spending time together and continuing to teach my kids about God so they can love him and love others. I know it will be the hardest thing I have ever done, but I am content with our choice. It has been solidified for me.
Whew.
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